Psychopaths and individuals with Cluster B personality disorders (narcissistic, borderline, histrionic and antisocial) can truly harm the health and emotional well-being of people closest to them. Whether you were raised by such an individual, are divorcing one, or you work with one, it may seem impossible to keep an optimistic attitude and outlook with such a toxic force in your life.
During the time we lived with my in-laws, my narcissistic mother-in-law engaged in gas-lighting, verbal abuse, rewriting history, blatant attempts at manipulation, playing dumb (or forgetful), projection, lying, denial, double standards, tantrums, crocodile tears, threats, bullying, emotional blackmail, and at least one meltdown of nuclear proportions.
The issues outlined here are written to relate to those who have been romantically linked to toxic creatures, but they can apply to other types of abusive relationships as well. For instance, adult children or siblings of narcissists typically ponder the same questions.
When my husband and I arrived back in our home state, several years ago, the plan was to stay with his parents while he settled into his new position with the company we were working for, had a minor surgery and a sufficient recovery period, and searched for an apartment. It was my mother-in-law who extended the invitation for us to stay with them during this time.
In a previous post, I talked about giving some insight into what it was like living with my narcissistic mother-in-law during the time my husband and I had to do so out of necessity. The following is an example taken from one of my personal journal entries from about five years ago.
Is there any way we could co-exist with psychopaths peacefully? Could they be integrated into society in such a way that they could only be helpful? Here are a few ideas for how to neutralize them, in order to protect the innocent.
Here are five unhealthy behaviors that are cause for alarm in the early stages of a relationship.